I write this post encouraged by my sister-in-law. This morning we were discussing the role of animals in our lives and how “aware and connected” they can be to humans. I was reflecting on the recent loss of our dog Katie, and what she meant to me. I remarked at how animals have helped me cope during times in my life when for whatever reason, human comfort or companionship wasn’t available or desired. At times, I swear that animals are better listeners, better friends, and more tolerant than our human counterparts.
I think that because animals listen without judgement, are there for us no matter what, and tolerate our eccentric behaviors, we tend to attribute human-like emotional support to their expressions, behaviors, and routines. They bridge a gap where humanity fails us. I remember times when I was a teenager, I would go into my chicken house and sit down and start what I called a prayer meeting. I could make the sound of a chicken and you wouldn’t have known it was coming from a human. They would scratch the hay on the ground around me, sit on my legs and shoulders, clucking and talking with/to me as though I was one of them (of course it did help that I hatched many of them.)
If you spend an huge amount of time with your animals, ask yourself…”do I allow myself more freedom of expression, love, compassion, grace, tolerance for my pets than I do my human companions?” I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with lavishing love and attention on our pets. I have made some personal observations reflecting on my own past and realized that sometimes my pets were used as a crutch or surrogate because the human option was either too difficult or not available. Do you find it easier to give love and attention to an animal/pet than to risk vulnerability or intimacy with another human being? If you can honestly answer that question for yourself and find that you do have a preference for dealing with animals over humans, you might want to take some time to journal and explore “why?”
It takes a lot of work to reflect and look inward to understand why we behave the way we do. There is however, a great reward in examining the differences in our relationships between animals and humans. You might discover healing, you may gain new friends (both human and animal), and you certainly will benefit with better mental health. Seeking to understand our own behavior and the reasons/motivations behind our actions can reveal a lot about ourselves. Purposed avoidance in our relationships only creates great chasms/distance and awkwardness.
All relationships take work! Healthy relationships require conscious, focused, intentional thought and energy devoted to keep them fun, comforting, and enjoyable. That is the only way to keep both people interested, excited, and committed. If you neglect your relationships and let them run on auto-pilot, that’s when the routine/humdrum ruts get carved into your existence. Boring, predictable, responsible are attributes of a relationship that has been allowed to stagnate. So, dust off the j0urnal, the bicycle, the tennis rackets….get off your couch and cushy chair, don’t wait until the New Year to turn a new leaf! Nothing ventured, nothing gained. I dare everyone who reads this post to take a personal inventory and answer the question… “Are you living your life on purpose…or on cruise control?”
I hope everyone had a great Thanksgiving….even our four-legged, winged, and finned relations!
- Owning Dakimakura vs. Owning Pets (lthemachine.wordpress.com)
- Can I claim my pet as a dependent? (turbotax.intuit.com)
- Two thirds of pet owners don’t have insurance (money.marksandspencer.com)
- 1.5 MILLION pets need homes this holiday! (nanawithtwodogs.wordpress.com)
- Animal Behavior: Animals Taking Pets as Companions (scienceray.com)
- Human angst, animal emotions (theglobeandmail.com)
- Pets not as good for our health as we may think (money.marksandspencer.com)
- Depressed pet owners may leave their pets feeling blue (money.marksandspencer.com)
- Pets are people too (run4joy59.wordpress.com)