Posted in Relationships, SocialMedia, Uncategorized

Pay It Forward ~ Family in Need

IF YOU READ THIS STORY & ARE TOUCHED BY COMPASSION, even if you cannot donate, please repost, retweet, or share this story through your social network. This is a great family and their need is immediate!


First off, for those who have followed me and interacted with me on social media over the years, you know that the most I ask of followers are responses to questions or opinions about what I write.  This post hopefully will help a family stay in their home, keep the kids in school, and help a mother get her child in need get through surgery and recovery.

When I retired and moved back to Nebraska in 2005, we attended church with a great family, the Alabis.  The Alabis are from Togo Africa.  Mr. Alabi was a doctor in Africa.  Because of political turmoil, they fled the country and found their home in Omaha, Nebraska.

Their children sang in the church choir with our daughters.  My wife often picked up their children on the way to church.  The children’s choir director Ms. Karen Johnson, is the piano teacher for our daughter Megan, and a couple of the Alabi children.  Ms. Johnson just conveyed to me this afternoon that Ms. Alabi’s daughter, Kween, has a tumor in her spine and must undergo surgery this coming Friday.

Here’s the verbiage she sent to me:

Kween Alabi is a 5th Grader at  Prairie Wind School in Omaha, NE.   She likes reading, dancing, playing the piano, and hanging out with her sister and two brothers.

Kween has been diagnosed with a 5-inch tumor inside her spinal cord.  She is scheduled for surgery Sept. 7.  Her prognosis will be unknown until after surgery.

Kween’s father is in Togo, Africa, attempting to re-establish the medical practice he left in 1999, and he is not yet able to support his family.

Kween’s mother will have to quit working for at least 3 months to care for Kween, and the family will have no regular income.  Although Kween’s medical expenses will be covered by Medicaid, and the family will qualify for assistance, it will be inadequate to meet their expenses.

The Alabis are in danger of losing their home.

Kween and her family need your help.  Fundraising activities are being planned, but much more will be needed in the months ahead.

Donations can be made to:
The Kween Alabi Donation Account at any
US Bank (e.g. 222 S. 72nd St., Omaha, NE 68114) or you can donate at Fundly

for more information email: or phone Karen Johnson (402) 558-3027

Thank you for reading and sharing this story to help this family!


Posted in Education, Relationships, Writing

What We Leave Behind They Inherit

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This afternoon on our way back from my 16 year old daughter’s Inter Generation Orchestra practice, she asked a very unsettling question.  I must paraphrase due to the scrambling my mind was doing because of the feelings of surprise at such a question.  “Doesn’t anybody (adults & elected officials) care about the impact of their choices and the job they are doing?”  She was referring to her future, her sister’s future, and the future of all her peers and those who will follow.

One of the benefits of schooling children at home (or supplementing public school education) is the depth of study and discourse you can engage with the student.  Our three children have been schooled at home since kindergarten.  My 16 year olds are studying Latin, Spanish, English, Science/Biology, World History, Civics, Saxon Math (Algebra), Logic, Critical Thinking, Creating Writing, Music, Drama, as well as numerous other self-study topics (Poetry, Art, and Classic Literature).  They have easily surpassed me in the number of books read, composers studied, instruments played, and stories written.  The result is well-rounded, alert minds that let nothing slip through their reasoning filters.

A little more context before I address my response/reaction to her question.  The backdrop for this interchange is:

  • Anniversary of 9/11
  • Struggling American economy
  • U.S. unemployment at 9.1 percent
  • Social Security, Medicare, Medicaid Programs sustainability in question
  • Potential for a repeat circus on Capitol Hill regarding the Debt Deal
  • A politically charged/divided House and Senate more focused on party for party’s sake
  • Drama of upcoming Presidential Election Campaign
  • Waning Consumer Confidence
  • Bipolar Stock Markets
  • Questions about the safety of Nuclear Energy
  • Hurricanes, Floods, Fires, Earthquakes

I could go on but it would only depress you.  Needless to say, our teenagers across the nation are steps away from taking their place at the ballot boxes, finding their place (careers) in the world, and starting families of their own in an uncertain future.

My wonder at her question comes from the reality of the question.  Everything we “adults” do (based upon our thoughts/feelings and choices) has a consequence.  Those consequences not only visit us, but ripple to all generations that follow…like outwardly expanding rings on a pond after throwing a pebble.  Basically, it starts with you, me, and the people we elected to help administer and govern our rights and freedoms as Americans!  Our children didn’t have any choice about their entry into this world.  We chose them!  With those choices come great responsibilities that never expire.  We are examples to them and each other.  Our actions say much more about our values, principles, humanity, and respect than any label we may adopt or profess.

As parents, bosses, elected officials, friends….when you make a choice, do you ask yourself “What impact will this decision have upon my children, this culture or our way of life, and the subsequent choices necessary by those who follow in my footsteps?”  Perhaps, if we all spent a little more time taking inventory of how well we are executing our responsibilities, we might be more inclined/motivated to judge ourselves and make better choices with the time and resources gifted to us.  None of us are guaranteed longevity, and as misfortune would have it, today is an awful reminder that “the American Dream” isn’t promised to any of us, it must be earned, worked for, valued and protected.  Even then, there are those who would deny us our way of life.  We must be vigilantly mindful that all eyes are watching!  What we do and say matters!

The daily rate of change across the globe, the influence between cultures, economy, dependency and cooperation is exponential.  As biology teaches us, those who adapt quickly in states of rapid transformation are those who remain.  We must value our children as individuals who have thoughts, feelings, ideas, opinions and will someday be carrying our burdens and cleaning up our messes.  Invite your child to talk to you about how they feel about the world, their future, their opportunities.

My daughter feels very frustrated with her observations of our current political climate.  I encouraged her to do something about it.  If you’re a teenager and you’re reading this, I encourage you to not wait until you’re eighteen to begin exercising your rights as a U.S. Citizen.  Start now, write your Congress and Senate Representatives and let them know your concerns.