This message brought to you as a result of my daughter asking, “Is there such a thing as “Woman Points?”
One really can’t answer that question without first asking “What is the thing about “Man Points?” As much pitting against the genders as there is coming from both sides, I wouldn’t be surprised whatever the answer was of who started this ridiculousness in the first place.
But it does beg the following questions:
Who came up with the rules?
What are man points (or woman points?)
How do you gain or lose points?
Are there differences based on culture/geography?
Are there certain times where the rules and conditions are suspended/ignored?
Who’s keeping count anyway–is there an invisible point balance following men around?
How do you assess who has how many?
Anyway, I took a stab at what I could intuit would be cause for gain or loss of man points. This intuition/recollection of course being the result of a couple of decades mixing with other adult males and listening/observing comments and criticisms made by men about other men:
Gain Points Lose Points
Hunt or own a gun Cook better than a woman
Follow or play sports Like or do any crafts
Fix your own automobile Still live with your mother
Go to bars & check out women Comment on a woman’s clothes
Drive a truck Focus on clothes color matching
Scratch yourself or spit publicly Clip coupons/go “sale” shopping
Open doors for women Clean up after yourself
If you don’t fuss over your looks Spend >5 minutes on appearance
Responsible but socially clueless Squeamish or too picky
I did some Google searching and found out there’s even an iPhone “app for that!” http://themanpoints.com/index.php The sad thing is it that it is a “tracking application” for keeping count of how many good deeds you’ve done for your significant other–pretty pathetic if you ask me. It even will produce a report for you on your “ManPoints Statement” so your good deeds don’t go unrecognized. What!!!! Not only are you not man enough to do “WHATEVER” is your responsibility to share around the house or parenting, it sounds like you need to schedule yourself for a chest implant to pin your points on!!??!!
Here’s another stab someone took at defining what a real man is: http://www.askmen.com/money/mafioso_60/98_mafia.html in an article titled, “Top 10: Traits of a Real Man.”
My thought is that we lose opportunities to learn and grow as individuals when we prejudge others based upon differences in how our gender is expressed through appearance, verbal patterns, culture or gestures. Sometimes it is difficult to become accustomed to extremes or unique expressions, but underneath it all…we all share the same basic human needs/desires! If you make the personal/physical investment in time to commit your life to another human being (especially if kids come into play) then you owe it to each other to share all responsibilities equally to the greatest extent possible.
Twenty years ago, there was a difference between women’s work and men’s work due to societal ignorance and stereotypes but with the advent of the industrial revolution, and companies like Craftsman and Black & Decker (and others), there’s nothing stopping either gender from accomplishing great things indepently of each other or as a team. Also, any male with a mind and a heart in the right place can learn to nurture and care for children and hearth with as much devotion and commitment as any woman.
Ladies please, give us some honest feedback concerning this topic!
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- CEO Daddies Won’t Close the Gender Wage Gap (AuthenticOrganizations.com)
- The Girlfriend Experiment: Red Flags When You’re Dating (dailymaxam.com)
- What Transmen Tell Us About Inequality in the Workplace (bigthink.com)